Simple Mistakes or Something More

There's so many little moments I look back on now and wonder if it was the disease. Years ago my husband started commenting on how bad my mom was at making coffee. I just added more creamer and drank it down, not giving the stale tasting coffee a second thought. She had been making me coffee for years, maybe her pot just needed to be de-calcified or maybe she was cutting back on the amount of beans used? Eventually, it just became easier for me to always take her a Starbucks than have her brew us a pot.

There was a strawberry pie incident that left the first (and only) bite of pie sizzling on our tongues. She had been making this pie my entire life, but surely it was a simple ingredient mistake, nothing that I should to be alarmed about.

As my grandparents aged and required moving from the town of Santa Claus to the same town as my mother, she became the caregiver for their daily needs. Besides working at the library, she was now taking my grandparents to every doctors appointment, doing their grocery shopping, basic housekeeping at their apartment, managing their medication, while also taking care of her own house, husband, and being our mother. My sister and I watched the toll the role of caregiver took on her. As their needs became more than she could handle, my grandparents moved into a nearby nursing home. Even with their daily needs no longer my mom's responsibility, the stress and guilt of them being in a nursing home continued to plague her.

She began to voice that she was forgetting things and was visibly upset that certain things were happening. An example would be going through the drive-thru to grab food. One day after paying for her meal, she drove off and never stopped at the second window to grab her food. Mom assumed her actions were the result of stress from having aging parents residing in a nursing home. I readily agreed and told her she just needed to slow down, take some deep breaths, and everything would be ok. Looking back, she voiced her concern and chalked it up as stress. Did she really know that something more serious was taking place? Is it possible that denial was already in play and we both chose to ignore possible signs. It'd be six more years before denial was no longer an option and reality would gut punch us when we least expected it.

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